So we had C's B-day party at the rinky-dink Mid City Lanes... whod'a thunk a cheezy bowling party would make her so happy?
It was very important to me to make sure the people she invited were real friends or had the potential to be real friends-- this crap that has been going on at school really hurts her feelings... middle school kids can be soo cruel. Chalice has really struggled with fitting in and flying below the weird radar. She doesn't have the toughest skin when it comes to the hateful and hurtful things some of her so-called friends say. And no matter how many times I tell her, and her fathe tells her, and every other adult tells her that this is how it was when we were her age... nothing in the history of the world has been as hard on a 11-year-old- gilr-going-on 12 than the venemous words of the crew she pals with in school.
But todays party was a breath of fresh air to all that. Nanny made a suprise appearance and bowled with the kids through the entire party. The cake was sickeningly sweet and covered in pink flowers (as demanded) and she got gifts and stuff from Hot Topic (thats m' girl!!) But was so spiffy for me was to see that all the children who showed were freindly and warm and cool and nice-- we even evolved to the next level and had a BOY at the party. And props to the BOY for showing up without the need for a buddy. (I didnt have evolved BOY friends like that at my Sweet 16!)
She'll continue the festivities at her fathers this evening and on Wednesday... On this side of her fam we'll be doing a dinner thang with Nanny and PopPop and Yaya and all...a fancy dinner so she can glam up- and get some nice gifts..
All and all- I really was pleased with the party- her father showed up before it ended- and with school winding down.. it is a high note for the social scene.